I wanted to let you know I had issues with my Xh and that cake eating regards to coming to the house and seeing the kids anytime he wanted.
I did allow him to do it for a while, but I soon decided if he wanted his divorce, then by God we better act like it. I set boundaries and rules and he was not allowed over here unless he was to take the girls to school, drop them off, or there was an emergency. Before he was dropping by bringing them donuts, hanging out in the driveway, picking them up and taking them shopping, while I was at work.
This is part of the REALITY OF DIVORCE. If you stick to your boundaries he will be getting a good taste of it.
Oh and ya, that affair OW.... it's true. Once the sneaking around is gone... the honey moon is over quite quickly. From what I understand my XH's honeymoon has been over for quite some time with OW. She's manipulative, and he's getting one good dose of reality.
I really understand how hard it is for the kids being angry at their father, and the visitation issues. XH shoved OW down the kids throats 1 month after he told them he had a girlfriend which was 3 months after he left. OW can't stand my kids and refuses to speak to them when they're there. They don't feel welcome.
