I understand. Just for clarification, I am not trying to hurt. Just asking and really trying to understand. I am not coming into this with a conscious slant to things, so please don't think I'm judging. I looked at my posts, and it could be taken that way I've seen and talked to many people that question like you do, both on these boards and in person. One person is my neighbor and friend. She went through many of the same steps you are going through. She was about to leave her husband (started an affair) and ended up readjusting her perspective. So did her husband. They learned to work through it to give each other what each other wanted/needed. It's a learning experience to say the least. It was only their commitment that kept them together for a while.
I do realize there are things you want him to do with you. I realize you want and need more from him. I do realize that you are trying to figure things out. I get it.
What I'm getting at is that perspective is very important. Your perspective is coming across as looking at negatives and only taking into account what you want. And not getting enough of. I see that you have changed ("NOW" was the item that stood out.)
I'm not saying he should not do things with you. But I get that you feel it is not an equal partnership. What I was trying to see is if this is a reasonable perspective and why in order to hopefully help. No matter what happens, it is how you feel and you are perfectly welcome to feel however you want.
Your posts come across as you wanting to run away. I could easily have misinterpreted that. Posts are short and 2 dimensional by nature, right? Personally, I love to travel. I now have that financial freedom to travel and really enjoy it. Don't get me wrong, my ex liked to travel as well, so it wasn't something I couldn't do because she didn't want to go. Just time of life and expenses.
What I'm hearing in your posts is that "you tried" and are unhappy because of not getting what you want. I'm not seeing what you are doing to change that other than outline why at this point. That's a good start, but what's next? What are you going to do to be the change?
By the way, have you ever read the 5 love languages? Has your husband? If not, I highly recommend it as a way to better understand each other. It's not perfect, but it's a good read with lots of good practical information.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
I've seen and talked to many people that question like you do, both on these boards and in person. One person is my neighbor and friend. She went through many of the same steps you are going through. She was about to leave her husband (started an affair) and ended up readjusting her perspective. So did her husband. They learned to work through it to give each other what each other wanted/needed. It's a learning experience to say the least. It was only their commitment that kept them together for a while. 
