I hope your meeting with your attorney goes well tomorrow, MKB, and that you can start to feel less anxious. It's not surprising that you are feeling anxious so be gentle with yourself.
I'm sure that your H will start to miss the kids and see how controlling XW1 is at some point. It's just a question of time. The only thing you can do is stay out of his head for now.
I hope that S14 starts to feel better and causes you less worry as well.
Look after yourself, MKB, and keep posting.
Me: 51 H: 52 T: 23 yrs M: 19 yrs S18, D16, S14 (special needs) PA: 2003/2004 Piecing: 2004 on Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012