Just wanted to add what others have said - don't leave your house. Your husband has selected the life he wants for himself, and it's ok if he's not comfortable as he wishes.
But this post very much jumped out at me about the advice not to confront your daughter about her drug use and sexual activity.
You need to let her know you know what she is doing and put her on detention in the home immediately. Obviously her life is upheaval too, and she's just a kid. She needs to know that her parents are her parents - the fact that you aren't outraged will not benefit her.
Right now, she's acting like she's an adult - begging your husband to come home - and doing adult activity. Take the pressure off her. It will be awful and she will tell you she hates you. Tough times.
But now that you know what she's doing, don't you think she's journaling for the very purpose of being found out?
You and your husband better make this your number one priority. Not his wishy washy desires to sleep at home or your confusion. Be the parents.
