13 months is a long time, heck, 1 month is...don't beat yourself up. I only now know that W's mlc probably started in 2008...I figured out it was mlc about 13 months ago with her dive into phase 2 BD...I did have a pre-game warm-up in 2009 where I did learn a lot, so this second time around I got up to speed and open to new ideas, ways of looking at things, etc faster because of phase 1.
One thing I can verify, if you interrupt the process of mlc, before they are done within, it just comes back again harder and more furiously, my W's sure did....do not interrupt the process.
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maybe I shoulda said let's get workin on our own !! -- cuz I think that's why she told me - but I am so unsure these days I am afraid to say anything --
Just my opinion, but, umm, now is not the time to be making babies...even if it would seem to pull her back in...see what I wrote above regarding the process. Right now, from my experience, the LESS you say and do, the better. She has to learn things herself, like having a raging fiancee of neighbor man going off on her, for example...YOU cannot teach her any lessons right now...she is going to have to learn everything the hard way.
Get out of her way. Get out of your own way.
If you cannot wait, that is okay, it is your choice. Believe me, I have been at the point of quitting many times, I get it, and will never judge someone who needs to move on...that is why the vets here say that, in the end, the LBS does have the power...to stay, go, accept the WAS back, or not, etc.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
