Hi everyone, need some ideas or thoughts on this. So it's been more than a month since H stopped all contact with me. I'll give the brief story of us again this time, my last thread didn't really show it much.
Together 7 years, M 5 years. Our relationship began to doom about a year ago, and neither of us tried to fix it and eventually, he began the A the end of last year. I wasn't aware of it. Back then, we were staying in different cities due to work for about 2 years, we visited each other from time to time.
In July, we were about to move to a new place together as planned 2 years ago, but he called me and said he wanted to end this. He said we were both young, we should find someone who we completely are compatible with, etc. I didn't understand how he could be so determined. I cried, begged and everything. He finally admitted that he cheated and he wanted to be with the OW. I know I was responsible for the failure of our marriage and at that moment I finally got hit hard and "woke up", that I promised I'd change. I wanted another chance. Then we stayed together for a few days, he said he'd give us another chance, and promised to cut off contact with OW. But he needed time and space. So he left. I didn't know what to do, he promised he'd come back. During the first a few weeks I didn't handle it well, didn't give him the proper space and it pushed him away.
In August, he came to see me due to guilt or so, and he was so distant and he didn't say he wanted to be back anymore. Although, he gave me some sort of hope that he was working on stopping the A. I got emotional but hopeful.
Later, I snooped, and found out he's still been going out to bars, restaurants, even theme parks with someone. And I wouldn't be surprised if it's all with the OW. Then I got really hurt and went to see him. I wanted to show him that I am better and changed. When I was there, I didn't do too well. He didn't know I knew about him going to bars, theme parks and all that. He tried to be peace with me, but he was so distant and I just felt so cheap go visiting him. At the end, I blew it. After that visit, it seemed like he finally got his excuse to say no to me officially. He shut me off 100% of his life. And this was the beginning of Oct.
So, now I am confused. Is he really done? I didn't try contact him since last visit, and apparently he didn't contact me either. I snooped a lot at the beginning of this NC thing, and found out he was happily with the OW, and their R was more open (seemed to me) and I got really hurt. So I stopped snooping. But should I keep waiting for him to contact me? Anyone with similar experience? We have no children. It just doesn't seem like he'd contact me at all. Helpppp please.
