It is telling that all of "her" friends are now my friends. I come to find out that she told her mother that she doesn't understand why I can't just be friends with her and the OM. The OM was my "friend" and our other friend's fiancee, so we all know each other quite well. How delusional is that?! What fantasy world is she living in where she thinks that will ever happen?
Yes, that is pure lunacy. What kind of friend treats you like that?
It sounds like you may have a decent idea of what you really want out of a M. Do you? I would say you're not getting it right now, and it sounds like you're saying you may never get it with your W.
Originally Posted By: fuanacdc
She will never be happy until she takes some time to work on herself. She shouldn't be dating or married to ANYONE right now. I am, or at least was, willing to stand by her side and help her work through her issues and our M. But if she thinks that this guy is the answer then I have no idea what is going on. She will figure that out, I have no doubt.
Sadly, she's shooting herself in the foot right now. There's also a chance she will discover the OM is not the answer and she will try another OM to see if that's the answer. My W is doing something very similar. TBH, I get little nuggets that tell me she's a total mess right now. For me, it does make it a little easier to "let go and let God."
I think the best thing you can do is to continue working toward being the best possible fuanacdc you can be. Prepare for the next relationship, whether that's with someone else or your W.
