Read "After the Affair" it'll help you and your W understand things.
Have you learned anything from him? There must have been a reason why she was attracted to him. Find that out and see if there was a need that he fulfilled that you don't.
Have the two of you gone into C?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.