Too bad about the finances, but he needs to deal w the consequences of his choices now.
Concerning your D, I wouldn't say you know anything about her journal, but try to be there for her to open up to you to talk whenever possible. She is at an experimental age AND dealing w her dad leaving at the same time. YOU are her rock even if she's not opening up to you now she will prob at some point soon. She's obviously having internal turmoil (aside from the obvious).
Don't worry about your H's accusations about not allowing children to "heal" etc and blah, blah, blah. It's his way of displacing his own guilt and putting "blame" on you.
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.