Sunny, You have to remember that you wife is the exact opposite of who she was pre-crisis. She's going to do a lot of things that are out of character for her before her crisis is over. So, you need to learn to accept her for who she is today and not who she was long ago.
T's provided some very good advice and explanations.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
