Sweetbriar, I'm sure others may not agree w/me, but I wouldn't leave my home for the night just so that he can see his children. It is on him to figure out how he's going to make his visitation w/his children work. As for the error in support money, well...that's his problem and he can get a second and third job to keep him in style while he is supporting is children, etc. He created this mess, therefore, he can figure out how to make it work.
As for your daughter's journal, this is her private journal, I don't think it's a good idea to reveal that you've read it. I think you need to find a way to broach the subject w/her. You do not want her to distrust you and turn away from you, as she has w/her father. Right now, she needs to know that you are the stable one in this family.
As for your h, I would be civil w/him, but after what he's put your through, I would think long and hard to do him any favors. He needs to face reality and the consequences of his actions and you are not his mother to help him figure it out.
BTW, where did he think you would go stay one night a week and especially when an infant comes along? That is so crazy, but I'm sure someone may have suggested this to him.
Don't make promises or deals that will end up hurting you or your children just to keep him happy.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
