I do have a question for you (and other men here). I have read A LOT of threads and success stories. It seems to me - and I could be wrong, that men are most likely to succeed at reconciliation. I feel that many women (myself included) have a much tougher time controlling our emotions and fail to really follow DBing in a systematic, methodical way like you, J3B, Starsky, Bond, Mach and other men have been able to. Even some men who are deep in the trenches, like AnotherStander, seem to get and apply DBing principles in a much more effective way than many women. I am talking about cases where there is infidelity involved.
I have read of successful women here, but not really of many who were the LBH and where there was an OP involved. (I read Holly06's story which is amazing, yet I find that her sitch was very different from mine.)
KG,
Check out some of Pearharbr's old threads. Although she wasn't married at the time (she HAS since married him, and is very happy), she was a GREAT DB'er and outstanding at lovingly laying out boundaries, in my opinion:
