Great prayer SB. I am going to print it and use it often. TJP, you sound like you are exactly in the same place I am. You have realized you really want him in your life. It's no longer a need. And you always wonder if what you want so desperately to say is going to be a mistake. It is a struggle for me everyday. I hate playing second fiddle to another woman. I hate being nice, when I want to strangle him. I have to always remember the ultimate goal is to win him back. I always ask myself "Is this going to help or hinder the sich?" It's so hard walking on eggshells, but it will be so worth it if he ever comes back to us. I too visited a lawyer just this week. I feel much better about things, if it ever goes that far. Like you said MLC H's are unpredictable and we have to be prepared. I will not be the one to file though. I promised my children way back when this started, and I promised myself 17.5 years ago when I said my vows.