Having a really bad day and hope is dwindling quickly. H snuck in while I was at work today and moved more of his stuff out, about half of it is gone now. Sent me a text after saying he will be totally out by the end of the month. This just happened after we had two pleasant conversations by phone and several texts lately about business matters and the hurricane (he was in Atlantic City when it hit). I was just beginning to have serious hope that I might have a chance, now this slap in the face.
Your sitch is still relatively new, so there's no reason to give up hope yet. Remember that it is YOUR choice when to give up hope. Your H will not give you any reason to have any hope for months. That doesn't mean it's finished, it's not finished until you say it is. A good friend of mine's wife walked 2 years ago. They had almost no contact for a year. Then they started talking, then doing stuff together, then sex, and now they're talking about reconciling. After 2 years! There are no guarantees, but my point is your H's current actions do not mean there's no hope.
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What really hurts is the way he is doing this, slowly and painfully over the last month. It is like he is trying to make this process as hard as possible.
YOU have control over this! My W was doing the same thing, I called it a "slow bleed". I finally told her I was tired of coming home every day and seeing little things missing, I gave her a deadline to get the rest out and she followed it.
