Separated and confused

[gunny]

hi jendp,
Sorry you are going through this. I went through these feelings about a year ago, and still, today, I have my days. In general, the good far outweigh the bad, but even at the end of a good day, feelings of sadness find their way in.

It sounds to me that you are making progress in your journey to detachment, but still have a ways to go. It is a process, really only time can partially heal your feelings. In any dealings I have with my ex, I always try to ask myself, is this (whatever I am doing) going to help, or hinder me in my progress toward healing? Since I want to be able to look back someday and look at my behavior during this time with a sense of honor and contentment that I acted in an honorable way, i have chosen to remain positive in all my interactions, which has not been difficult since she is of th same mindset as me.

So, with your sp, i would advise to continue to remain positive and upbeat, and know that eventually this phase will end. He will remember how you treated him during this time, and someday, dont know when, he will remember you with kindness, regardless of how things turn out. Hope this helps