THE GREAT LAND

[gunny]

So, on this journey into the great land of divorce, I have met with some good and bad discoveries. I started dating someone about 4 mos after my ex left, she was a friend from about 15 years ago and we ran into each other at a work event. We reconnected and starting seeing each other loosely over the next 9 months until about 1 month ago. Dating her went against almost all the advice given in my divorce support groups, where most people advised against dating until at least 1 year or so after the d. I never felt comfortable with this advice, and felt I needed the company of someone else who found me attractive. I have no regrets about getting involved with this person, she is a great woman but has many issues from her marriage and is in constant batteles with her ex over the children.

Yesterday I found out through facebook(which I am rarely on but get updates about constantly) that she is now seeing someone and seems very happy. Someone also told me that my ex has changed her status to in a relationship(i wouldnt know this because i never look at her page and am not a friend) For whatever reasons, yesterday was a tough day, I have been doing pretty well, but I guess we will have these retrenchment days. I now find myself wondering should I just regroup and work on me, or continue to get out there on dates and experience new people. I know this is sort of a rhetorical question, what have other people on this board experienced. I am all ears, thanks folks