I am not an expert but my gut says be careful what you wish for or try to trigger -- you might just get it. Our sitches are different, but I know from my own W on any given day if I offered a D or hinted at it, I have a 50/50 chance of her taking me up on it on the spot. I am planning on pursuing the DB process and allowing for as much time and space as she needs.
Quite frankly, I like being able to focus on me a little and making improvements to me has been helping my self confidence and also allowing me to look at things through a different light.
I wish you the best on your sitch but hope you think this through carefully so you are prepared for any possible outcomes once you start the process.
W: 40 Me: 44 M: 12 years Together: 14 Three children (S-4, D-3, S-1) EA started in April, discovered in 07/12 ILYBNILWY: 07/12 MC Started: 09/12 Patience Tested: 1,245,963 times since 07/12
