I just did some googling on relationship dynamics. Whenever I thought or spoke "dynamics," I just meant the physical interaction between H and myself. For example, if I do something with him that he wants to do, I feel/believe that he should do something equivalent with me that I want to do. Simple.
"You must be the change you wish to see in the world." - Mahatma Ghandi
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He even used this tactic with my father and then told him not to believe anything I said, that I was "fundamentally dishonest." I have filed all of this away under "Do not believe anything they say" but it really is vile and reprehensible behavior on his part.
I know this is out of context and was not posted by you. However, it illustrates something I think you need to know. Do you recognize the dynamic in Regretful's post to you? Do you see how her husband is hurt and how he his actions are taken by her? I'm not saying he doesn't have his part in this or that he is wrong or right. I'm trying to point out what you may not see at the moment by highlighting what others have experienced.
Can you see the power of perspective yet? Your perspective is very very different than mine. I see a woman who is generally unhappy and wondering if there is better elsewhere but stuck because she doesn't want to hurt her child but is also stuck because she is waiting for her husband to change because she has been wronged.... (run-on sentence is on purpose).
Perhaps I'm seeing it incorrectly. But it seems you are looking for a reason to stay and fight vs. run away.
I have to head to work for now. The thoughts may seem like chinese right now, but please give it some thought. I promise you, I am really interested in your well-being and joy. I am not interested in pursuing happiness. (There is a big difference)
Peace,
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
