I just wonder if you think I might need to rattle his chain a little. I have alway been the submissive wife and I think this would definitely get his attention. What do you think?
I think that this is not about YOU and your relationship but all about him. Have strong boundaries but if you EXPECT that something you do is going to change him then you will be disappointed.
He needs to decide that he is going to change, filing for divorce will get you divorced, if thats what you want then DO it.
