I just noticed this in your sitch. My H's mother also left when he was an early teen and he has never gotten over it. H's grandmother had an affair but stayed with H's grandfather (on H's mother's side.) IMO this is the crux of the problem in our R because H has never dealt with this abandonment and is now projecting his issues onto me.
I just read this on Soul.Searching's site. THIS is why I'm still trying to stick it out for S12.
Divorce does not equal abandonment. If you and your H D, there will be a custody agreement. No one is leaving your S behind. My H truly got left behind. It is very different. My own parents are D and I never felt abandoned by either one of them.
Me54, H53 M 23, T 25 S20, S18 BD: April 2024 Moved out: August 2024
Love means not giving up on someone even if they've given up on you.
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