WAS vs. LBS

[RegretfulLA]

Glad I found your thread Crazyville. I am the LBS in my sitch but in a way I am a WAW too - I had an EA which was basically a slap in my H's face. I really identify a lot with what you are saying here - especially this...

Yet if you met him, you would think he was the most devoted H in the world, a H that I would be a fool to walk away from. I had a mental vision of him this weekend being one of those beggars standing at the street corner with a sign that reads, "Will work for food." It really pulls on your heartstrings, and many people just hand them money. But if you call their bluff and offer them work, then you get the real story. Unfortunately, no one ever calls his bluff.

My H talks such a good game, and he used a series of arguments (based on true facts) to really smear me and make me look like the world's worst, ungrateful, hateful, horrible W. He really should have been a lawyer. He even used this tactic with my father and then told him not to believe anything I said, that I was "fundamentally dishonest." I have filed all of this away under "Do not believe anything they say" but it really is vile and reprehensible behavior on his part.

Anyway, he hasn't taken any responsibility for his own part in our sitch, and it sounds like you're experiencing same with your H.