Perhaps.

In all fairness, the only context that's really important here, IMHO, is the context of you.

And I mean that generically, when anyone is going through this type of challenge. The only one have AN experience, is the one having the experience.

Let me put it this way:

+ when you are alone on a beach, laying in the warm sun as it sets... the only one having an experience, is you

In the same way, the only context... the only experience that you are having in regards to your M... is your own.

Yes, your H is having an experience as well. It is different than your own and it is his focus.

His experience, his focus, his interpretation, his context...

Your experience, your focus, your interpretation, your context...

Focus on you...

Focus on your experience...

You need to get that...

In order to move forward...

IMHO...