Funny, I didn't see AJ posting just before me. He speaks directly to the same.
Have you ever heard the saying, "think outside the box"?
There's another way to consider that phrase, which is "there is no box". Or to use a reference from the movie "Matrix", there is no spoon.
Gandhi, Buddhism, what have you, teach that a problem exists when you look at it. It gets worse, the stronger you focus on it.
Your struggle... from where I sit... is your focus is so narrow... on your H... that while it may not seem to be getting worse... it's certainly not going away.
I get that you are not understanding.
I get that the problem is not going away.
When you understand... you will understand.
Until then, you will not.
Look within, find peace in yourself first... then in your surroundings... then... in others...
