Oi, mine is special...

[Big Bruce]

Hello everybody and thanks.
There isn't much more to the story. She went to Canada in December to 'prepare' our move, and finish a degree at uni. Things were great when she left. I stayed in France to sell the apartment, the car, resign from my job, etc...We were communicating ok by email, but with hour difference became distant. I was scheduled to arrive in Canada in July, but in June she wrote that email saying that we were different, she wanted to move on, etc... you probably know the rest.

So I arrive in Canada in July and am alone, and the first visits to my son happens to be at the park with her parents only (she was avoiding me), then with one parent and her. Maybe so that I don't escape back to France? Twice a week only because 'everybody is busy' and it only worked out this much. So I let the things be like that from the beginning.

Now, she says she will file for D in January, so we only have two months before us. I went to the visits all perky and 'as if', and asked for forgiveness in letters. Did all she wanted, didn't bombard her with too many letters or emails after the first month or two. Last week I tried to invite her for dinner : no. For coffee so we could talk 5 mins: no. Invitations don't work obviously. But since I am in Canada I haven't sat with her yet to talk about the separation!

Then I tried orally this very week to ask her to keep overnight the toddler, but she said no, he's too small. If I write an email saying : ok that's it, my right is 50%, that is the toddler one week with me, one week with you (at her parents in fact), isn't that against all rules? Or will this be a wake up call for her by giving her a sense of loss somehow (She doesn't seem to realize that she's destroying a family over nothing..) Because at the moment it's all too easy for her to just go to school, go to part time job, and have stupid Bruce come twice a week for the visits...

Thanks guys...