I wouldn't be surprised if H doesn't answer my question about what is he working on. He has yet to say exactly what he means. But, like you said, he probably doesn't know what he means! Makes me wonder if he really would want a divorce or he just "thinks" it's what he's supposed to do. I told my friend today, I bet he's hoping I will get tired of this and ask him for a D. That's not happening. I am committed to this for myself, my Ds, M, and my lost H. I have ordered sooo many books to help me, along with getting everyone's valuable advice from this forum. I am very blessed to have new friends to lean on :o)