It's interesting that he asked about a lawyer. I bet he thinks that my change with my communication is from a lawyer telling me what to say. Guess again buddy...it's all me. Plus help from you all! I do have an appt with a lawyer tomorrow. I don't want to start anything, I just want info and see if I'm doing what I need to right now. My MLC H is unpredictable and I want to be prepared for anything. I do love him with all my heart. I have never stopped loving him thru all this mess. I want him to come home. I love the marriage and family I had.
I would like some advice on what i should ask the lawyer. I have so many things running thru my head. I am a wreck and I haven't had the meeting yet! I'm not telling H I'm going.
I would also like opinions on my last interaction with my H. You all have given such great advice and support. I trust you. What do you think I should do next with H? I really don't want to make him mad. I just want him to think.
I would tell the lawyer my sich and then if he is a good lawyer he will tell you your rights -
I think you are doing well - don't be afraid to wait a while to answer his emails make him wait a day or so - make him pursue you
Sunny
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
Thanks for that advice. I'm still learning. I need to learn thru a fire hose right now, not a leaky faucet. I'm so afraid that I'm going to make a mistake. I should run everything by you guys, if there's time. Definitely before I respond to H emails. I need to find the balance of detaching without making him mad.
Thanks for that advice. I'm still learning. I need to learn thru a fire hose right now, not a leaky faucet. I'm so afraid that I'm going to make a mistake. I should run everything by you guys, if there's time. Definitely before I respond to H emails. I need to find the balance of detaching without making him mad.
Hey don't join the BYUC now - if you read my thread you will see I messed up REAL bad and I been doing this a while - it's always easier to tell someone else what to do !!! -- You're doing well
Sunny
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
I wouldn't be surprised if H doesn't answer my question about what is he working on. He has yet to say exactly what he means. But, like you said, he probably doesn't know what he means! Makes me wonder if he really would want a divorce or he just "thinks" it's what he's supposed to do. I told my friend today, I bet he's hoping I will get tired of this and ask him for a D. That's not happening. I am committed to this for myself, my Ds, M, and my lost H. I have ordered sooo many books to help me, along with getting everyone's valuable advice from this forum. I am very blessed to have new friends to lean on :o)
I wouldn't be surprised if H doesn't answer my question about what is he working on. He has yet to say exactly what he means. But, like you said, he probably doesn't know what he means! Makes me wonder if he really would want a divorce or he just "thinks" it's what he's supposed to do. I told my friend today, I bet he's hoping I will get tired of this and ask him for a D. That's not happening. I am committed to this for myself, my Ds, M, and my lost H. I have ordered sooo many books to help me, along with getting everyone's valuable advice from this forum. I am very blessed to have new friends to lean on :o)
I get it though I really ALMOST quit today let me tell ya !! --
When I wake up I say - Thank You Lord I live to fight another day !!
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
I pray for the strength every morning. Then pray again at night thanking that I made it thru another day. I also end the day with the thought that its one day less of this hurt and one day closer to having my H back.
I pray for the strength every morning. Then pray again at night thanking that I made it thru another day. I also end the day with the thought that its one day less of this hurt and one day closer to having my H back.
Below is a prayer that I wrote/assembled from some other prayers I hope it helps you - I wish this place had chat I would love to chat with you peeps !!
Heavenly Father I praise and worship you this day - thank you for all the gifts and blessings you have bestowed upon me Lord. Father God you know that my spouse is going through a mid life crisis of some sort. I want to save my marriage and work through this but it is so difficult.
I ask that you help me to focus on myself Lord, I ask that you help me to be the best person I can be. I ask you to help me let go of my spouse and trust that you will take care of them.
I pray for the faith and strength to keep trying no matter how bad things appear. I pray that you will help me keep my eyes focused on you that I look neither to the right or to the left but on you Lord.
I pray that I will remain loving, kind, faithful, responsible and dependable. I pray for full release of any need to dominate or control my spouse in anyway.
I pray for the ability to focus on my work, my children, my health and my relationship with You. I pray you will keep my marriage safe from anything that would destroy it. I pray that you sever all unholy bonds and relationships in either of our lives. I pray that my spouse struggles through this you will give them the grace and presence of mind to remain faithful, remove all temptation and opportunities for anything inappropriate or that crosses the line of decency. Take away all lust and attraction from our spouses heart and replace it with Your love. Help him/her to flee all adulterous thoughts and be able to glorify you in his/her body soul and spirit. Restore love, desire and attraction for me in their heart.
I pray you all anger, hatred, discontent, unhappiness, depression and confusion would be evaporated by the power of the Holy Spirit.
I pray that most of all you would help me to not hesitate to hope out of fear that I will be disappointed, Lord I commit to trusting you at all times. I praise You, I bless You, I worship You and I glorify You forever & ever.
Your Son said all we ask in Your sons name you will grant us – so in Jesus’s name I pray and I believe. Amen.
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
