MLC w/Depression...withdrawing!

[albamarie]

Journaling:
SO here's a question I asked a few weeks back. My H has said a few times lately that he is having trouble moving because he doesn't have anywhere to put his tools.

Ok, that may be true but it sounds like a ''life line'' he's using to buy time to truly make a choice. If a man wants to leave he would leave, right?

He says this because originally several weeks ago I said if he leaves he leaves. None of this back home when he's not working to mow lawn, ect. crap.

So here's my question again, do I tell him to go completely, take his stuff, not live here, no dropping by (that's what he thinks as of now).

Or, as Tumbling has suggested, don't put that on him, make our home his light house, let him go do what he needs to, it would be harder for him to come back if I make him take everything.

I should read how that's working for her! It is great advise but I'm afraid to see him "drop" by and the emotional impact of that. To read to much into what he looks like or how he acts.

It's stupid - he's going to have so much down time with the work going away mostly for the winter. He just thinks he'll turn into this productive guy because he looses all motivation living here.

I can't get caught up in his crazy justifications, fantasies, or delusions of grandeur. But, I don't know if I'm actually hurting him by letting him think he has to take everything and disappear.