The crack in my separated life...

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Sweetbriar,

I am sorry about the court appearance, yet I think it will be better to have some questions answered so you don't have to worry. For intance - the financial aspect is set and you don't have to worry about it.

Re. visitation - I know that your feelings and those of your kids towards your H are very, very raw. Yet, we always have to remember that it's not our place to determine or affect the R that the children have with their father. Time and his actions will determine that. Try to stay away when it comes to that.

I am not asking you to try to mend that R, but please try to remain as neutral as possible when talking to your kids about your H and please, please do not fight in front of them or talk about your H with a friend at a time when your kids can listen. Your H's behavior is most definitely hurting them - but witnessing first hand every detail of it just makes it worse.

Try to stop wondering if your H is done, if he is mad, if he is nice, etc. Focus on YOU and YOUR KIDS. That is what is most crucial TODAY. Your R with your H still has a lot of chapters to fill - it will not end today or tomorrow. You will have at least 18 more years of dealing with each other. Look at me - my H left when I was 6 weeks pregnant. My S is now 15 months old and I still deal with H almost every day. So try to step away from your R with him and pay attention to what you can control.

How are your kids doing today with the news?
What are you doing with them to help them feel better?
How are they processing their feelings? Are they in therapy?
What GAL activities do you have planned with your kids to get their minds off what is going on at home?

What GAL activities do you have planned for yourself in the next two days?
How have you felt with your pregnancy these past few weeks?
How is your nutrition?
Have you been sleeping well?
Have you tried any meditation or relaxation techniques?

There is A LOT you can focus on right now that will help you take your mind off negative thoughts and things you cannot control.
You can do this!!!

(((((sweetbriar))))))