General update as I felt I handled a sitch badly with W today. I got in from work (upbeat). She did not tell me about her day and I did not ask (shld have asked - I think it wld have been safe to do so).
I said I will sort S out for bed etc. She said she was going to do it but I insisted (it is one of my 180s). She then asked if she minded if she went to her place to do some more work. I said fine. She then hung around upstairs with me and S and after a few minutes said she felt like a spare part. I said I thought you wanted to to your place. She said I know but I still feel like a spare part. I said I wld rather her go earlier to her place then she is not as late back. That me and S are fine. She said yes it wld be nice to get to be earlier, hung around for a minute or so and then went.
Okay - I replay it back and think if I had gotten her involved with something we cld have spent some family time together. But I have done S bedtime for ages now and we have a good routine going. Prob over thinking it but I think I missed an opp! On the positive side W def must have noticed the 180, and it showed that me n son r fine on our own.
