Unpacking my bags

[needgrace]

How come you feel you were trying to subtly control things?

Thank you Busting!

I realized later that I did in a few subtle ways:

When she brought up an alcohol problem of a friend, I mentioned how a lot of lesbians seem to drink a lot (not very well disguised poke about OW and I even mentioned something about "that crowd" being drinkers..oops)

Under that same topic, I was mentioning how Pema talks about how we run to something to feel better versus sit with our feelings (and honestly, I was just sharing, but W could have taken it wrong and it was just not the right context to share that.. i started to not feel genuine and changed the subject.)

Also, she was talking about an R that involved someone cheating on/leaving their W and children.. I just said that it was messy but I felt like the look on my face precluded any real communication.

I am just checking myself and realizing that at times I am subtly sending messages to control how W thinks about me, our sitch, her actions, etc..