If you aren't sure what to say, say nothing...just smile.
I'm sorry that your inlaws are treating you badly, but you don't know what she's told them. They will one day find out what is going on, but like the mlcer, they need to do this on their own...why? Because blood is thicker than water and they will side w/her right or wrong until they see the light.
Keep the focus on you and your little one.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
If you aren't sure what to say, say nothing...just smile.
I'm sorry that your inlaws are treating you badly, but you don't know what she's told them. They will one day find out what is going on, but like the mlcer, they need to do this on their own...why? Because blood is thicker than water and they will side w/her right or wrong until they see the light.
Keep the focus on you and your little one.
Snod I don't know what I would do without you - your such a big help I don't say it often enough but thank you so much !!
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
Sunny, There is no need for a thank you. I traveled the road of mlc a very long time ago and I'm just trying to help others walk the path navigate the potholes, twists and turns.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
NOW my wife is hitting on my nieghbor who lives - we have trouble getting gas here when I get home she said Patrick next door is going to help me get gas tonight he is working security at a station - he lives with a nurse who works nights - she mysteriously takes a shower at 10:00 at night and shaves her legs -- blow dries her hair -- she goes over there at 11:45 and they leave for the gas station at 12:15
I go to be at 11:00 I hear her get text after text - this morning I see he phone and he is flirting with her she said she is so bored and he call her a tease and says this can get interesting - she gives him a smiley and he says well then cum on over - she says I am on my way -- i forward the texts to me and somehow she must have found out about it though I thought I covered my tracks -- because she password protected her phone when I saw it later this morning
I just keep messin up now she sees that I am jealous and still pursueing her all my hard work is in the toilet !!
F me !!
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
No, not all of your hard work is down the toilet...you just have to pick yourself up, brush yourself off and keep moving forward.
Do not say anything to her about the text messages. If she says something to you about them, then own up...but do not volunteer anything.
It sounds like she is flirting w/him and he's giving it right back. It's going to get very interesting, especially if the nurse gets wind of it. It's interesting how she's working this guy...maybe this is what she witnessed as a child and figures the flirting will get you the gas you need for your car.
Now, pick yourself up and chalk this backslide up and move forward.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I dont understand why she didnt say anything I know she wont this was a big problem in our relationship she can always act content even though she may be fuming inside -
I am just pissed I got caught it seems like I always do my therspist tells me to stop snooping but I cant seem to help myself everyday I say I wont and I do it makes my suffering so much worse but I knew when she showered something was up I think they all forget how well we know them I also dont underdtsnd the secrecy why doesnt she just tell me she isnt hiding it very well I hsre myself so much right now.
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
Sometimes, OK, most of the time you learn more from your failures than your successes.
It is not something I'm proud of, but I have snooped, too, a while back and H found out because I told him. I told him that I was so upset about him making a fool of me, that I ended up making a fool of myself. Talk about embarrassment. I also told him I wouldn't do it again because it wasn't "me" to be jealous. I chalk it up to a lesson in humility.
It may have been a big DB mistake, but the peace I have knowing that my conscience is clear is priceless.
Just remember, your snooping won't change her behavior. And it is not in your best interest because it makes you miserable.
Sunny, Sometimes, OK, most of the time you learn more from your failures than your successes. It is not something I'm proud of, but I have snooped, too, a while back and H found out because I told him. I told him that I was so upset about him making a fool of me, that I ended up making a fool of myself. Talk about embarrassment. I also told him I wouldn't do it again because it wasn't "me" to be jealous. I chalk it up to a lesson in humility. It may have been a big DB mistake, but the peace I have knowing that my conscience is clear is priceless. Just remember, your snooping won't change her behavior. And it is not in your best interest because it makes you miserable.
Here is the whole convo Her: Hey whats up with the gas
Him: just got a call gas lines low will be better after 12 though you can hang here if you want
Her: Well I am so bored, bored, bored.
Him: U tease !!! LOL might be interest
Her:
Him: I hope you are erasing these texts and this is your phone !!! If that is the case then lets go !!!
Her: You want me to come over now.
Him: Cum On
Her: Okay
1 – she showered late at night and shaved her legs – that is not snooping she did it with me there.
2- she sent text after text with the sound on I could easily hear that she was texting
3 – she left the house while my BR light was still on so she knew I was up
4 – she was there for somewhere between 20 and 40 minutes – before she left - she came back in the house before she left for gas and saw me at the computer when she came in.
So I just checked her phone for details this morning but it wasn’t like she didn’t give me reason to wonder.
I don’t know why she hasn’t filed yet – is she trying to drive me out of the house – I am at the end of my patience.
BTW I left for work and made a right turn this morning I was supposed to go straight – it took all of 55 seconds for me to make a u-turn and I come back up the block and he is outside the house talking to her – WOW that was fast !!! – she must have texted him before she came out to move her car so I could pull out.
Then I go ˝ mile and I realize I forgot my wallet so I turn around again – he is there talking to her – his Fiance is outside too – he asked “How are you” I said fine but I gave him a look like I know what you and my wife up to you A$$HOLE – he looked shaken – I just had a big smile on my face - I said how are you – he said fine just running around – I go to get my wallet come out tell my wife that my son who she left unattended is in the bathroom – she goes really – I said yes – buttface was getting into his car – I hate my life right now !!!
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
I saw where you are looking for Eric. Eric lives in CT and his area may have been hit by the storm. Also, if you are trying to PM from this site, it will not work because the PM capability has never been turned on.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
