"Why would my other thread get locked?"

Because you exceeded 100 posts. It's the rules of the forum.

Don't show her DR because of two reasons:

1) You're not married

2) She has specifically told you that she thinks all this is YOUR problem. She doesn't want to work on anything from her end.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER