Been there, even went so far as try a singles site for a week or so back in Feb. I was thinking I was just about done. Here is why I didn't continue looking elsewhere, your mileage may vary...
-if I started up with dating, it would probably have done one of two things with W: either pushed her to fully leave, or, she might have tried to reconcile or whatever TOO EARLY, before she was completely done with her crisis. And that could/would lead to another dive down the tunnel at some point in the future...I have seen her do this, I am on round 2, I don't want another. She needs to complete this journey and we will either R or D, but I want any R do be done with clear choice, resolution, not a knee-jerk reaction to competition or whatever.
-what if I got something going with someone else? Then I am in a dilemma, right? Not a big fan of drama these days... lol.
-the example for the kids. Oh, things get rough, so Dad just takes the easy way and runs away to someone else. Not my teaching goal.
-my own values as to what kind of person I am and want to be. Cut and run ain't my idiom.
-do I really think I am ready for a real relationship at this time? REALLY???
-what if I date a needy/mlc'er who won't let go, wants more than is possible, etc...you know, a bunny boiler...
-STDs
-it would then justify all of W's cheating, lies, etc...(oh I said to myself so many times, what's "good" for the goose...).
-did I mention that I don't care much for drama anymore these days??
I know how tough it is, man. I see W every frickin day, and on those days when she's attractive to me...ugh, pain, longing. But you know, maybe this is part of MY journey and lesson...to not be dependent on getting that, or anyone. To be okay on my own, to meet my owns needs. To learn and grow from this challenge and suffering.
Just my 2.5 cents...
T^2
After lasts nights festivities I was just thinking about starting to date since my wife is so proud of her divorcing me a lot of people know and a lot of girls have been approaching me - I was all ready to mess around tonight thanks for talking me out of it T2 !!! c
Also T2 could you read my thread and chime in on what you think I should do ??
Does anyone know where Eric is ??? I miss him and I can't PM him for some reason.
Thanks
Sunny
If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it. I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!
