Thanks Arsene and AS.
The post from ACC makes sense.
During the convo's she has said she needs time to "let it go". This means OM, his family, etc. So more time for her.

Anger / reality crept in again last night at bedtime. Thoughts of the PA, not confirmed but most likely. Can I deal with that aspect? Do I want to continue to DB and "settle"? Is that a normal piece of this?