WAW/EA/MLC? Need a shoulder

[littleGTO]

LS13,

My sitch is similar but one step ahead. My H just moved out this past weekend. He is in an EA that he refuses to let of go to work on our R.

We have 3 kids & I'm trying to sort out the new "rules" for this transition. For the kids sake consistency is best, so I'm going with the advice that if H wants to come at a "random" time he needs to give us some notice. You may want to establish a prior day request or whatever.

I know the "friendship" relationship is hard-that's where we are too. And I certainly don't want to be a doormat for him to walk all over, but boundaries are difficult when you are getting along and thinking the time you spend together is better than not.

However, things WILL change when she actually moves out. Some things will be immediate, others will take a LONG, LONG (MARATHON) time.

Don't assume she is stronger b/c of OM--that is mind-reading. It could just as easily be her interactions w you & your attitude change toward her needing time/space.