I'd really appreciate any input on tonight's not so good DBing. I'm having mixed thoughts on if i should have had that conversation.
I don't think you did anything wrong. You're not supposed to bring up R talks, but your H did and it's fine to discuss it when the spouse brings it up. I think you gave him some good truth darts regarding how you won't be walked on any more and won't allow yourself to be used for sex at his whim. Good job! Next time just try to get him to talk about his feelings more, and if he does then be sure to validate.
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He is actually starting to own some of his mistakes and starting to see things more clearly,.. at least for now but it really sounds like he does not want me back. He just wants to be friends, Nothing more.
You're not even to the 2 month mark since BD, have patience!! You are seeing some really good signs already. He is indeed owning his mistakes, that's a great sign. He needs to explore his faults in order to recover. This is part of the process of him coming to realize that you are not 100% responsible for every bad thing in his life, and that leaving you is not his path to 100% happiness. You just need to keep DB'ing and be very patient
