I was realizing I should probably move over to surviving the big D. The affair piece of my situation has really faded into the background. At this point, I'm just trying to deal with H in a way that enables me to best move on with life.

Agreed on personal connections being a little dangerous on this forum...and I think it's nice that we can all post without worrying about any of that stuff.

I sent H a list of our assets last night and a proposed split. Not surprisingly, I got no response. The good news is, I really think we could divide things without it being too difficult.


M 44, H 46
D11, D9, D5
Married 12 years
PA confirmed 9/2011
I filed 3/2012
H moved out 7/2012