In the success stories at the end of DR there is one where the H writes that he told his W that he was not done until she walked out the door and had her read DR.
What I'm wondering is how this doesn't violate DB and the DB rules listed on the forum?
Michele specifically says in DR not to let the spouse read DR or even let them know you're reading it. That letter you're referring to was just that- a letter that someone sent in to Michele that she reprinted. Not everyone follows DB'ing on every point (probably no one does). But even when they don't it can still work.
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If I were to sit down with her and tell her that I know things have gotten bad and I'm not giving up on her, that I'll be around until she walks out the door, could it be helpful?
I don't think so. Based on your other posts I'd say she already knows that. You don't want to keep repeating what she already knows, it'll just annoy her. Besides, words are cheap. She wants to see actions, and she wants to see them consistently and over a long period of time. That's where your focus needs to be.
