Seems entirely normal to think of wanting to be with someone else. I think of it often, even loving my H dearly. I really believe he is "done", for now, and I don't really want to be alone the rest of my life.
Some of my sentiments exactly but i have no clue what my W is wanting long term. Even though we are working on our friendship i want more. I am lonely and likewise, do not plan on being alone the rest of my life. Ok, I'll use my own 2x4, its only been 8 months stop your whining... I think i am just feeling anxious because of the move. Feel like it will be more dificult to cultivate any type of R. I also believe this puts me and my morals at risk. The longer we are separated the more temptation i will have to stray or even give up.
I have no idea what kind of contact she is/or isn't having with the OM. I have found myself wondering about this a lot lately. I know my W has quit going to a lot of the social activities of our group and nearest i can tell he has not been going either, curious... I keep telling myself to stay the course, and not worry about what i can't control.
Talked to W last night and again she makes a point of telling me how "content" she is right now. This really hits me everytime. I have done well keeping my mouth shut...
The hoiday drama is already starting. W wants to have her family over to her new place and show off her showhome (she really does have a nice place and has done a great job decorating and furnishing it, which i paid for ) The problem she has is she can't fit everybody. She invites parents, siblings and doesn't invite my older daughter and family, our son (who she hasn't talked too in months) or me. She does invite my younger daughter and g-daughter. Older daughter tries to talk her into having it at her house but W will have no part of it. It's got to be at her house.... So, Older daughter is planning dinner. Sounds like i will be enjoying T day with all three of my kids my 3 grandkids and W gets to host her parents and siblings to show off her condo.... I'm fine with that , but i do think W is going to catch flack from her parents... I'm fine with that too . Sorry just venting. I knew the holidays would be a challenge.
I would rather feel pain then never feel at all... Separated 3/2012 T 34 yrs M 27 yrs
) The problem she has is she can't fit everybody. She invites parents, siblings and doesn't invite my older daughter and family, our son (who she hasn't talked too in months) or me. She does invite my younger daughter and g-daughter. Older daughter tries to talk her into having it at her house but W will have no part of it. It's got to be at her house.... So, Older daughter is planning dinner. Sounds like i will be enjoying T day with all three of my kids my 3 grandkids and W gets to host her parents and siblings to show off her condo.... I'm fine with that 