Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part II)

[Am I Too Late]

Hi AnotherStander. I just got done reading your Part I and current thread and, like so many others before me, i wish to congratulate you on your patience.

I started here on DB way too late and handled things incorrectly, but also add in my W previously had 10 years sobriety in AA and relapsed nearly 4 years ago when her mom got sick, hospitalized, induced coma, looked like she was getting healthy and then passed away 1 week later.

I can't fight the addiction, but i do want to do more GAL and be less emotional.

Your sitch is helping me in those regards.

I still believe that my W can turn around her relapse when she sees the consequences, but i want to be there for her to someday reach out to if and when that happens.

What was the name of that one book you mentioned? Was it "The Happiness Project".

I felt quite Content in our M prior to my W's depression commingled with her relapse that she hid from me for 9 months. I thought she was just connecting with old friends.

Also, how is your W dealing with her new puppy?

Finally, do you have any vacation time coming up? It sounds like that might be the only way to see a period of detachment given your daily child exchange contacts.

You have SO much going for you and i Pray that your W realizes it soon

Ed