Sounds like the conversation went well and was productive. You've learned a lot about what her inner thoughts are.
Sometimes we do tend to "over shadow" them, or so they think. I would suggest stepping back some and allow her to make some decisions for herself. Maybe she needs to be recognized by others for what she does w/o being called a wife and/or partner.
Many of them will not address the affair and it's best to put that on the back burner for now.
You did well..keep up the good work!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
