Yes. Very. Almost like sitting with a total stranger in the room.
Yeah, in MLC terms they usually call that "going monster". It can happen with WAS's too, but usually it's an indication of MLC.
Quote:
I have been reading that board as well but have such a hard time telling the difference between the two. She meets some "criteria" in each case, but nothing is a perfect match.
There are a lot of shades of MLC, all of the criteria aren't always met. Unfortunately there's no way to clinically diagnose MLC, so you can never know for sure. But like I said before, whether it's WAS or MLC your DB'ing approach is pretty much the same. It's just a question of how long it'll take before you might see some positive signs/ baby steps.
So sorry that you're going through this, it's especially difficult with kids as young as yours.
Regarding your original question about 180's, if W has discussed anything in MC then make note of it. After our MC sessions I would go home and write down everything I could remember from the session, then review it to see if there were any new 180's I needed to look at. The notes are great for refreshing your memory for discussions in the next session too.
Beyond that, I second turtlegirl's recommendation of 5 Love Langauges. It's a quick read and will give you a lot of great techniques for showing love to your W without actually saying it to her.
