I’ll start with a very short summary: *W had affair 2 years ago. She stopped contact and we remained married. *7 months ago W was thinking about leaving. We tried counseling for a while but I think we ended up going back to our old ways again and didn't work on our relationship. *One month ago wife said she didn’t want to be together. She stressed this was her ultimate goal and that she had mixed feelings, but this was her goal. She stayed out late drinking often. She slept on the couch. *Over the last 1.5-2 weeks she’s returned to the bed. She states that she doesn’t know what to do and wishes that she could be happy with us. She said she doesn’t even know how to articulate what she thinks is missing in our relationship. *She’s stopped going out drinking as much and spends much more time at home. *I suspect OM after snooping and finding an email she forwarded to him. I also found a saved self-photo of him wearing nothing but a towel. I haven’t continued snooping since. I can’t prove affair since he’s a coworker in a large metropolitan city… it’s nearly impossible to track. *W hates her job. She feels the stress of her job is more than the stress of our relationship problems. She’s trying to find a new job and has an interview tomorrow. We’ve also discussed her staying home with S and just working a part time evening/weekend job. *Currently, she sleeps in our bed. She doesn’t wear her rings. *We’re scheduled to go to Retrouvaille this weekend.
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
