I'm not sure if I agree or disagree with that, A. I can act happy all day long cleaning house and I'm still not going to be happy about it. I get the concept though. I'm also still in a bit of a quandary as to what I could ask him to do that would ultimately translate.
In the meantime, I received some insight from H last night. He told me he was getting a lot out of a book that he was reading and gave me a couple of examples. They weren't new, either the problems or the solutions. So after a few sentences of affirmation and encouragement, I asked him what was different that he was receptive to what the book was saying but had never been receptive to my saying it (ie. that a win-win situation was where both parties win, instead of one person winning everything.)
He very politely and kindly told me he isn't receptive to me because my mother is someone that cuts off relationships when they go bad, rather than trying to reconcile. Not me, my mother.
I get the concept though. I'm also still in a bit of a quandary as to what I could ask him to do that would ultimately translate.
