Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part II)

[Soul.Searching]

Yes, I agree with all of the above. I was one of the people involved in the discussion about low energy spouses. During a phone conversation tonight, I did throw in some R talk amongst general conversation. He said he had to go but then called back a little later. (The first time he has called in I don't know how long, without having a reason to call.) He ended up throwing some R talk in to the conversation too. It was all about our past R but I still found it interesting. I even realised he has been reflecting and he's owning some mistakes.

I really do think that with these types of spouses, we do need to reach out. It's just a matter of how, when and how often.
Maybe she might have been more comfortable with that if your S was not there?