wishing, What your h wants is the craziest thing I have ever heard of. I would think it would be easier to maintain individual accounts and go from there. It sounds to me like he can't let go of his control over you and the family and he wants to ensure that he knows where every penny is going.
What he has suggested would be entirely too complicated because you then would have to transfer funds to that joint account to take care of bills, etc. Me, personally, I wouldn't go for that.
He may have thought he told you that he was going to be out of town...but he didn't. This happens a lot w/mlcers.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
That's just insane I agree with Snodderly, i definitely would not accept that.
M: 29, H: 31 D: 9 S: 8 T: 13 Y M: 9 Y ILYBIDKIILWY 12/09/2012 ~~~~ Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. ~~~ it Emptys today of its strengths
I think it's nuts too. My attorney called me this morning and told me nothing was settled. So the hearing gets rescheduled like it should have in the first place. H doesn't fool me nor does he fool anyone else.
Now he
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
I think it's nuts too. My attorney called me this morning and told me nothing was settled. So the hearing gets rescheduled like it should have in the first place. H doesn't fool me nor does he fool anyone else.
H wants the house so I am all for that. I just hope I will be able to find something affordable with room for the kids and the dog. I have been fighting my anger today at what he has done to us. I have no sympathies toward him whatsoever and I do not know if I will ever forgive him.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
And I forgot to mention he invited himself, OW and her kids to Thanksgiving at his sister's house. I guess I don't have to worry about fighting him for the kids this holiday. It's all about OW and I for the life of me fail to see why.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
So the new court date is in January. Yes, January. H has steam coming out of his ears. And that's not even a final date. That's just an addendum to the temporary order. Looks like I will be here a while. Lol!
H was just whining about how he thinks he is getting sick. Snodderly, you are sooooooooo right!!! Asking me to pick up S from soccer practice because he is feeling so fatigued. He doesn't fool me. He wants me gone so he can call OW.
So I am trying to include him on when we can meet for D's parent teacher conference even though I dont have to meet her with him. There is no law that says we have to go at the same time. H wants to go at the same time for some reason. But he won't commit to anything. I am not starting an argument in front of the kids so tomorrow I will tell him commit or he is on his own. I will NOT do this next year.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
wishing, I'm sure he was not happy to hear that the court date is in January. He most likely thought the date would have been in December. Poor baby! He's getting what he asked for and he doesn't like it.
I'm sure he is getting sick. The stress is getting to him and he'll be sick a lot in the days to come.
Your h wants to appear as a united front when meeting w/D's teacher. He doesn't want to go by himself because then the world would know that something isn't right in your home. If won't commit to a time/date, go w/o him.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
So now H has sent me an long rambling email stating he wants to talk. He goes into how he never meant to hurt me and how he still has strong feelings for me, just not romantic feelings. Just what is that supposed to mean anyway?
He goes on about how he has written a letter explaining how he feels we have reached this point and he wants to give it to me and he doesn't know if it will make me angry or if would give me closure. Frankly I don't want to read it. It's a moot point now. We should have discussed this a year or so ago. I still think it's all manipulation. He wants us to be friends. I can't be his friend right now.
He seemed like he was very desperate and even said he was at a "turning point" in our relationship. I don't know what the heck that is supposed to mean. It seems like everything he says is in some kind of code! I asked him what exactly he wanted to talk about and he could not or would not tell me! He said if I didn't want to communicate that was fine. I said I had no problem communicating. I just wanted to know what the topics of discussion would be. He mentioned that if I didn't want to have a conversation with him then so be it, but he would not ask again. I asked him if that was a threat and he got very defensive and very angry. I think I hit a nerve.
Anyone have any input? I could sure use it!
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
Just tell him that while you don't agree with his actions with the adultery you understand how he feels and that you are living your life now while he figures his out.
You don't have to go into details. Just stay busy.
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Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
