wishing, What your h wants is the craziest thing I have ever heard of. I would think it would be easier to maintain individual accounts and go from there. It sounds to me like he can't let go of his control over you and the family and he wants to ensure that he knows where every penny is going.
What he has suggested would be entirely too complicated because you then would have to transfer funds to that joint account to take care of bills, etc. Me, personally, I wouldn't go for that.
He may have thought he told you that he was going to be out of town...but he didn't. This happens a lot w/mlcers.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
