oh RegretfulLA, You just reminded me when I caught hints of Hs affair in the beginning. He said NOTHING to make me feel better. Not even an I'm sorry. Reading your side of it, I realize he was seriously detached by then which is probably why we've been in this sitch for so long.
I hope your H is willing to try again. It seems as if he's all tired out from trying. Let me know when you do go to MC and how it goes. Do your homework and get a good one ;-) I got a male because I knew that would help H open up more. And I didn't say much in the beginning to allow H to also open up. He struggles to express himself and I needed him to talk.
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017