The Lure of the Siren

[Arsene]

AT, we saw each other on FB and had a quick chat about meeting on FB when we were just in the same house. She then told me she had a "chat" appointment with her sister who lives in a nearby country. Nothing much.

AS, thanks for your constant support. I figure that if one day W and I end up going through these pages together, I might as well make them interesting to read .

Thanks for your advice on detaching. In fact, this morning, when I got up to say goodbye to D8 who was leaving for school with W, I was my pleasant self, and W seemed to mirror that. We had a bit of an interaction re: my visa and they left. I felt better about that than I did about the merely "civil" approach.

I also like that compassionate approach. I'm not here to punish my W. That would mean that I am judging and condemning her, which are things I used to do and part of my 180s. I need to create some distance for myself, not to hurt her. I can do that by remaining fun, loving and caring when we do meet. I just need to make sure we don't meet too often, or for too long.

"I just think you and I could both use some time and space to think about things and decide where to go from here"

I like that answer AS. It is truthful and you are right, it is also a bit mysterious or at least thought provoking.

Starsky, you are right. Hope alone is no plan but hope is an important part of any plan for where is the need to plan if we hope for nothing.

Thanks for sticking around mates.