I understand what you are saying. Your children have to be protected, loved and heard. He doesn't understand that what he's doing is affecting them. Your children are relying on you keeping them and their space safe and tension free.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Exactly! I hate the way this is effecting them. They know this person isn't their Dad. But, it doesn't make it hurt less. This is a man that adored his Ds. They were both Daddy's girl. Now they don't even want to talk to him. Its so incredibly sad.
It effects more people than they realize. No one really knows exactly what's going on with our family. I teach at the same high school my YD attends. Today, my best friend and other teacher in our room, wanted to talk to me about something one of our VP asked her. I have lost some weight from all of this mess. The VP asked my friend if I have cancer.....this is not the first person that has questioned my appearance. I went to Dr a month ago and have another appt tomorrow. This Dr knows what's going on. He ran a bunch of blood tests. Only thing off was my immunity. Very minor. Probably the same count as it would be if I had a cold. Nothing he was concerned about. The weight loss is the issue. He wants me to drink an Ensure everyday and eat anything, whatever i can/want. i have NEVER been told to eat more. I'm not looking forward to weighing in tomorrow. I think I've lost 4 pounds.
Your weight loss could be the mlc diet. Stress plays a huge role in our lives when mlc happens. Get yourself some B vitamins, especially B-12. I hope all of your tests come back okay.
Stay strong and positive.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Eat! And drink the Ensure, or at least smoothies or milkshakes. You need to take care of yourself so you can be a rock for your daughters. They are watching you.
Here is the latest with my H. The last communication thru email was him wanting a key. I said to send me a list of what he needed and I would bring it to him. I never sent another email.
After getting an email today....I didn't initiate.....he did (he hasn't initiated an email unless it was about money).....I think I've got him thinking. The first thing I noticed is,he started it with my name! For three months when he has sent me an email, he just starts the email without any greeting.
This is the rest... XXXXX, You haven't answered any of the questions I've asked about anything. I would just like to understand what is going on. Do you want to try to work together on this or have you gotten a lawyer? (He has never asked for a divorce or even said the word separated, even though he doesn't live at home.)
I think I have him a little concerned. He is getting a taste of what it's like to not know what's going on, especially when it effects you personally. I have not answered. Not sure if I'm going to.
Funny now there has been no more questions about a key and getting the coat and gloves he wanted. Guess his has other things on his mind now.
It's interesting that he asked about a lawyer. I bet he thinks that my change with my communication is from a lawyer telling me what to say. Guess again buddy...it's all me. Plus help from you all! I do have an appt with a lawyer tomorrow. I don't want to start anything, I just want info and see if I'm doing what I need to right now. My MLC H is unpredictable and I want to be prepared for anything. I do love him with all my heart. I have never stopped loving him thru all this mess. I want him to come home. I love the marriage and family I had.
I would like some advice on what i should ask the lawyer. I have so many things running thru my head. I am a wreck and I haven't had the meeting yet! I'm not telling H I'm going.
I would also like opinions on my last interaction with my H. You all have given such great advice and support. I trust you. What do you think I should do next with H? I really don't want to make him mad. I just want him to think.
